Explore how changing your beliefs about yourself transforms relationships, success, and your ability to reach your true potential.
Beliefs Shape Our Results
Welcome to this week's You are Destined for Greatness. You know, I spend, I talk a lot about the way that we think about ourselves. What do we think about ourselves? Because the thoughts that we continue to think about ourselves become what we believe about ourselves, and then our beliefs drive all of our actions. They contribute to all of our results in our lifetime.
It's the biggest determining factor in what happens to us in our entire life experience. And I've had some life experience. I've had some life experience of having some beliefs about me that didn't help me. Okay? Matter of fact, they ended me in jail and then in prison, and then drinking, getting drunk every day for over 20 years. And then lots of divorces, and then lots of pain and misery and suffering, and I mean a lot, okay?
Understanding Duty and Self-Belief
And so what I want to talk to you today is the word duty, okay? Now, and this is a serious deal, because duty to me means a moral obligation, and I'm gonna ask you to consider the idea that you have a duty that you may not have considered. I'm just gonna ask you to consider it. Because I believe, okay, let me just tell you what I believe and what happened to me.
In my downtime, when I didn't like me much, okay, when I didn't believe, when I was ashamed of myself, when I was disgusted with myself, when I wasn't happy with me, I didn't think it mattered what I cared about other people. I thought that I could, what I thought about me was unrelated to everything else in my world, that I could have my relationship with my wife, my relationship with my kids, and the rest of the world, and what I was going on with me was going to be totally between me and me, and it wouldn’t have any influence. Wrong song, man.
That’s what I thought, okay? What I found it is, unbeknownst to me, everything inside of me was coming out to the entire rest of the world in everything I was doing. Okay?
How Self-Beliefs Affect Everything
And that was just because of my, I didn’t know. Okay. I didn't have the awareness, and I didn't have the knowledge to know that what I believed about me was being expressed in my results, in everything, in all my results and all, in everything. It just comes out, right? Because, again, how we relate to ourselves is how we relate to the world.
So my result, when I didn't like me much, was that really it was a bad deal. The result was people suffered, okay? And what I'm suggesting to you is that it is our duty to take our beliefs about our self serious, and to commit to working on improving the relationship with ourselves and move towards an unconditional loving relationship with yourself.
Transforming Results Through New Beliefs
Our duty, not just a good idea, because let me tell you, it's a good idea. When I changed my mind about me, when I started to develop beliefs that said, “Hey, Shane, you're okay. Like you, man, you're pretty okay. Let all that stuff go and move on.” And when I started to change what I believed about me, everything in my, all my results changed.
You know, I started having solid relationships. I started making more money. I gave up the addiction, the alcohol, the tobacco. I lost 30pounds, all this stuff, made more money. And I'm here to tell you that you, if you commit to moving that needle on improve, wherever you're at on the scale, okay, whether you think you're pretty okay, or whether you think you're amazing, if you continue to work on that, maintain it at least if you think you're doing pretty good, but continue to work on an unconditional loving relationship with yourself, that that is a duty that you have.
Why Loving Yourself is a Duty
And here's why. Because everything inside of you is coming out to the rest of the world. And to the degree that you love and accept yourself is to the degree that you're going to be able to love and accept and give to the people that you care most about. And, by the way, not only that, to be able to reach your potential and make the contribution to this world that you were destined to make. None of that's going to happen unless you commit to believing more and more in you.
And this is a never ending process. It's not like, oh, I got that one done. I got it done. You know, I changed. My needle went from way over here, or whichever way, let's say here's the low end, here's the hate end, and here's the love end. My needle went from over here, you know, and I've moved it quite a bit this way, and it never stays the same every day.
The Ongoing Journey of Self-Belief
Because here's the thing. Every day, I do things, and I make meaning out of what I'm doing, and that meaning, I judge what that means about me, okay. And also what happens is people do things to me. I experience the world, and I decide what those things mean about me, if anything, okay.
So this is an ongoing pursuit, okay? It's not something that you check off the list and move on to the next thing. And I'm suggesting, my friends, that this is your duty. It's your duty to yourself primarily. It's your duty to everyone that you care most about. And, it's your duty as a human being on this planet.
Just consider it. I know you will, because You Are Destined For Greatness.
