Style tells your story. See how purpose in what you wear impacts success, relationships, and personal development.
You Are Destined For Greatness
Thank you for joining me for You Are Destined For Greatness. I appreciate you taking your time to be here with me today. I'm sporting a Cowboy Cuff shirt from the Born to Succeed collection.
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Our motto at Cowboy Cuffs is “Elevate Your Style, Elevate Your Life, Elevate Each Other.” What that means is that when you elevate your style, you elevate your life. When you elevate your life, you increase your capacity to give and receive love so that you can elevate others.
Why Style Matters
Style is what I did a podcast on today. You're gonna want to check out that podcast, because here's the thing, style matters, man. A lot of times we don't think it does.
We've all been stuck kind of in maybe a style rut where we're dressing to the same thing day in and year in and out, month in and year in and it's the same old thing. And we're not dressing with intention.
What style is, is it's the way you dress, it's the way you talk, it's the way you walk into the room and present yourself, it's how you present yourself to the world, okay? And more importantly, it's how you present to yourself, okay?
So that's what style is, and why it matters is because we all want things. You know, we want, we want our kids to be successful, we want to be successful, we want to have good relationships, we want to have better jobs, more money, bigger raises, we want to have a boat, we want to have an RV, we want to have no debt, no pile of money in the bank.
And I want to have all of these things that I want, but see, I'm going to have to become that person that has those things. And when I present, I have to believe that I'm going to become that person in order to become that person. That's how it works.
That's how I achieve my goals. And when I present to myself and to the world the image of who I want to become, in purposefully intention, it propels me towards my extraordinary self, towards my goals.
The Style Rut and Belonging
But most of us are kind of stuck in a style rut where we're not dressing with a lot of intention, we're not presenting with a lot of intention. And it's kind of normal and natural, and here's why.
It’s okay because all of us, me, you, and all of us, have an emotional need to belong. We want to fit in. We want to be accepted to the group. Man, I want to fit in. And so we look around, and we dress to, we dress to fit in.
We dress kind of like what everybody else, not to standout, but to be assimilated in, not to be noticed, and just what feels physically comfortable and what feels emotionally comfortable. Nothing that's on the edge or nothing that takes a little courage to be like. Okay.
And we're limited in ourselves if we dress ordinarily and without intention. We're presenting us, we're telling a story to ourselves and to the world of a negative self-image rather than an extraordinary self-image. That's what we're presenting.
Common Style Lies
And so that is why it matters. There's a bunch of style lies. You know, we've all told them. You have to have money, it takes too much time, I don't want to be overdressed.
Oh really? You don't want to be overdressed, why? Because I'm going to hurt somebody's feelings? Think about that one just for a minute.
I'm going to dress all slumpy so that slumpy over there doesn't get their feelings hurt. Okay. So I'm going to present that I'm slumpy to myself and to the world so that somebody, because I think that somebody else is going to get their feelings hurt? Okay.
Rather than, I'm going to present to the world, to myself and to the world, who I want to become, and I want to show up as the example and the leader. And I want slumpy to dress like me, okay? Or to dress how they want to be in their future, rather than all ordinary and average and without intention. Okay.
Appropriate Style vs. Extraordinary Style
I don't think, I don’t think dressing down… We all want to be appropriate for what we're doing. That's not what I'm saying. We all need to be, should be, appropriate should be a goal, right? But inside of appropriate, there's a lot of room inside of appropriate. Okay.
And so, I mean, maybe you want to be, like I said in the podcast, your entire family, families wearing jeans and t-shirts at Thanksgiving dinner. And if you're a lady, maybe you want to show up in a stunning dress. Or maybe if you are a guy, you want to show up all dressed to the nines. Okay. And if you do, you should, okay.
Present to the world your most inner self. Style is your expressing your inner self to the outer world. That's what it is. And as you present that to the outer world, it is reflected back to you.
We're telling a story to the world of how, who we are and how we want to be treated and who we become.
Style as a Personal Development Tool
Style matters. This is one of the most effective personal development tools that there is, is your personal style. And most of us, particularly men, guys, we're not paying much damn attention to it.
And I'm here to tell you, we're missing out. Okay? It doesn't take that much time. And I know that you can do it without money. And I know that you can do it, you don't have to wait until your right weight.
'Cause I've tried to do it overweight. I've tried to doit with no money. And I've seen the results in myself and other people. And I'm here to tell you, take the time, be purposeful, because here's the thing.
You're worth it, man. You are extraordinary. So present as is, because You Are Destined For Greatness.
